One of the biggest reasons why we do not like new people as we 'just met' may be our prejudiced view of that person and our general worldview being anxious. When we reinforce our perception that the world is a safe place, we may notice that our prejudices decrease and we become more comfortable communicating with others.

Courage is not just not being afraid of something; It is also being afraid of something but being able to face it.

When what you want isn't possible within the relationship and you still want to maintain the relationship because you value it, it's a good idea to investigate the stories you tell yourself about your partner and your relationship. Discovering what kind of thoughts your mind produces about your partner's intentions, understanding the "obligations" that control your emotions, revealing your strict rules about your relationship attitude and your partner, and being able to produce alternatives to these strict rules will help you have a more peaceful relationship.

"20 years from now, you will regret not the things you did, but the things you didn't do. So throw the ball out of the lines. Sail offshore from a safe harbor. Catch the wind in your sails. Research. Dream. Discover." Mark Twain

Happy Father's Day to all fathers and father candidates. Fathers who care about their children and do not spare their love, I'm glad to have you!

Unfortunately, it is not possible to live a pain-free life. Pain, tension, anxiety... All these are part of our lives. What we need to decide is whether we associate these feelings with growing and developing or stagnating. To suffer while growing up or to suffer where we stand?

We are actually the ones who determine how unbearable the difficulties we experience can be. No matter how challenging the situation we are experiencing, our thoughts and ideas about that situation determine how we will actually feel, and we have the ability to regulate our thoughts and emotions no matter what.

“When we cannot change a situation, we have to change ourselves.”

Not all people are like you, some of their characteristics may be very different from yours. Their behavior may seem strange and unacceptable to you. Maybe you may think that others are making you very unhappy. The fact that other people do not treat you in a way that meets your expectations should not be a valid excuse for accepting unhappiness. If you are unhappy, you should struggle with yourself to find a solution. When you stop blaming other people and take responsibility and take steps for change, you get closer to happiness.

“The mind is like a reason-giving machine, and the greater the challenge we face, the longer the list of reasons that will come out of this machine: reasons why we can't, why we should, or why we don't have to.”

Dedicating oneself to an issue does not mean fighting with all our might and progressing willfully and successfully to the end. The necessity of being dedicated is to be able to pick up where we fall, clean ourselves up, and then stand up again and continue on our way.

We don't get that upset about people's criticism of us. What really upsets us is the additions we make to others' comments while trying to absorb and understand them. 'So I'm a very bad person.', 'I'm such a failure, I don't deserve anything.' We make comments like this. How about focusing on your thoughts and noticing and removing the additions you make to others' comments or behaviors towards you?