We Can't Change the Wind, But We Can Adjust Our Sails
In life, we don't always get to choose where the wind blows from or how it blows. Other people's behaviour and thoughts, the weather, what we've been through in the past, and what the future holds are all beyond our control. All of this uncertainty, and every area where our influence falls short, make up life's winds — winds full of surprises.
The Wind – What's Out of My Hands
Other people's behaviour
The outcome of my efforts
The future
My past mistakes
Other people's opinions
Other people's boundaries
What happens around me
What others think of me
But we shouldn't forget: even if we can't control the wind, how we adjust our sails is entirely up to us. Our own reactions, the boundaries we set, where we direct our attention and energy, and the way we talk to ourselves are all in our hands. By focusing on the present and owning our attitudes, we can chart our course anew.
Adjust Our Sails – What's In My Hands
My words
My perspective
Focusing on the present
The way I talk to myself
Where I put my energy
How I spend my free time
How I bounce back after hardship
The boundaries I set
Instead of draining our energy by constantly wrestling with what we can't control, focusing on what we can control helps us stay balanced even in the stormiest moments. When we recognize our own strength and set our sails right, life's winds stop holding us back and become a force that carries us where we want to go.
If wrestling with what you can't control is wearing you down, we can talk it through together. Book a free initial consultation.
Malik Kubilay Çadırcıoğlu
Registered Psychotherapist (Canada) / Psychologist (Türkiye)
